The relationship between people pleasing and trust has come up a few times this week in my work with my clients. Seems there are many people who believe, like I did, that pleasing others fosters trusting relationships.

Not necessarily!

In my first career in the public service, my energy was mostly spent trying to figure out what the "right" answer was before speaking. I had a compulsive need to please my boss, my colleagues, the folks on my team and our clients. I was afraid that...